Gift Ideas From Grandparents: What’s a Mimi to Do?

by | Dec 21, 2022

I have evolved over the years in my thinking around gift-giving to children as well as grandchildren. Perhaps you have, too? It’s a blessing that in many situations our grandchildren don’t “need” anything that their parents can’t already provide for them.

Our children are often better off than we were at their age, right? For which we should also be thankful, but it sure makes it harder for Mimi (or whatever grandmother name you use) to come up with gift ideas, doesn’t it!?!

Love of Learning

I am a lifelong learner, and I find many grandparents are as well. We love to learn new things, find it exciting to discover information about various aspects of life, and may even enjoy the opportunity with our grandchildren when teachable moments come along to hopefully instill in them the same love for learning.

So, initially, when grandchildren came along, one of my first thoughts was to find ways to stimulate brain development to help them become confident, capable, and maybe even enthusiastic, lifelong learners.

Colorful and engaging infant toys, the latest learning gadgets for all ages, and the gift of music in many forms were often on my list of gift ideas. Even the nostalgic gifts of basic things like jump ropes, tinker toys, or favorite classic books were common purchases.

I eventually came to cringe at the thought of walking through toy aisles (everything looked so cheaply made even if it wasn’t what I was looking for) or even scrolling online (since I really dislike shopping in general).

Then I remembered how differently my children valued “stuff” when it was their own money they were spending when we gave them cash for gift spending as young children.

The Need for Money

So, I switched to giving cash to the adult children (our grandkids are still a bit young for that, but school age is right around the corner). Let them pick what they want or need themselves and then no one has to deal with returns or polite thank yous was my thinking.

But I rarely learned what the gift purchase ended up being and sometimes feared it all ended up in a pot of money that may have just been lumped in with other bills/expenses. Not the “treat yourself” idea I had in mind, though if that is what they needed, then I guess that served a purpose too.

Financially, if you value and can help with providing a college education with your gift dollars, there are two main ways grandparents can help their children/grandchildren. You can always pay tuition costs directly to a school OR you can contribute to a 529 plan.

Paying a school directly does not count against the $16,000/year gift tax exclusion, it reduces your estate, and it is not taxable to the student. Contributing to a 529 plan has gotten easier and more flexible over the years and can be another “money” gift idea.

To me, a 529 contribution exemplifies my belief in the value of education and directs the monetary gift to that purpose. Electronic deposits via an emailed invitation or website login into an account that the parents set up seems like a win-win-win (for grandparents, parents, and grandchildren).

I still like to have a very small gift for the grandchild to open as another reminder that Mimi and Papa are thinking about them.

Opportunities to Create Memories

There is no right or wrong in gift giving to children or grandchildren as it is a very personal situation decision. We have now evolved to “experience” giving. A gift certificate for a concert, tickets to a local event, or Groupons for a family fun activity would be examples.

A believer in the impact of making memories versus accumulating things, I found sharing experiences to be more reflective of our family values. And now with children and grandchildren strewn across the country, shared vacations that we can help provide are becoming more of a preference for all.

Your Personal Journey

At a basic level, this idea of gift-giving is part of our personal finance journey. Our spending plan, especially as we near or are in retirement, needs to include decisions about our gift plans. We may ride a fine line in retirement between wanting and being able to be generous as we also don’t want to be a financial burden and make sure we don’t run out of money ourselves.

Oh, if we had only known earlier in life some of the personal finance lessons we may have learned the hard way! That lament is exactly what has motivated me to compile some money checklists related to various life events. They are great gift ideas for youth and adults of all ages and stages of life if you are interested in sharing money tips that you wish you coulda, shoulda, woulda known sooner. And the one possibly most helpful for us Mimis, a checklist for retirement, is kicking off the year in January.

Let’s Have a Conversation:

What has been your gift-giving journey? What have you come to find works best for you? Any suggestions or experiences you can share with our community? Let’s have a discussion.

Marie Burns is a Certified Financial Planner, Speaker, and Author of the bestselling Financial Checklist books. Find Marie on Facebook or contact her at [email protected]

This article was first published at 60 and Me – a community that helps women over 60 live happy, healthy and financially secure lives.